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Many people experience problems in relationship because they do not have any idea whether their relationship is healthy. As an ordinary human being, we constantly seek for advancement in everything we do. No doubt that this is good in almost every area of our life but this is not always true when it comes to relationship. Seeking for improvement is good to a relationship if you work to improve it from the inside out. However if you start to seek improvement by comparing it with other couples, you are asking for trouble. The reason is simple as almost every relationship is not the same and it is impossible for you to compare it with other couples. The definition of a healthy relationship may not be the same for each couple and hence before you dare to think that your relationship is inadequate or unhealthy, evaluate the below to determine whether your relationship needs improvement.
In every healthy relationships,
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Throughout our experience working with long distance relationship couples, we had discovered that there are lots of thing that we must do and as well as refrain from doing in order to survive the relationship. Below are some of the advices that we have compiled over the years. Although they may look simple but when it comes to the actual execution, it may take more than your effort and discipline. It is your desire to survive the relationship that makes the most impact in writing the outcome of your distance relationship. Consider some of the below do and don’t list and together with your desire, I am pretty sure you are able to conquer your distance relationship with ease and fun.
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Introduction
This is the second installment in a 2-part article series on creating more intimacy and passion in your relationship. Please click here to read Part 1 if you missed it. In Part 1, you learned about the developmental stages that gay couples go through in their relationships and how declining passion is a normal phenomenon and indication that your partnership is growing and maturing. You also had the opportunity to complete a self-assessment to uncover any blocks that could stand in the way of your having more passion in your relationship. Part 2 will now offer some practical tips and suggestions for enhancing intimacy in your relationship to bring more life and spice to what you and your partner already share.
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Article by John M. Lund
Regrets, Advertising Assignments, and Relationships
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One of the keys to obtaining a better life or living arrangement is to assess the quality of relationships that you surround yourself with. Do you surround yourself with loving relationships or unhealthy relationships? For someone that has a pattern or history with unhealthy relationships, the difference between the two may be difficult to decipher.
Healthy relationships are relationships that add to our well being, not subtract. They bring out the best of us by being supportive of our goals and our inner selves. Unhealthy relationships often cause us stress and subtract from our well being, often leaving us feeling depleted of energy.
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Article by Teecee Go
When you’re in the dating circle, you become subject to all types of relationships. You see bad relationship and you see some good ones. How do you know what to avoid? Here are some tips to help you recognize the bad ones from the good ones before it’s too late.
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Article by Cynthia Amos
Repairing a relationship can be a huge task to accomplish and I applaud you for trying to fix your relationship. Too many of us in the world just let go and move on because we take for granted our ability to fix the problems in our relationships. Its understandable because we’re all different facing our own set of problems.
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Article by Steven Griggs
What Goes Wrong In Relationships?
Relationships start out with a bang. They’re fun, novel and
hopefully exciting. They are engaging. They occupy our thoughts
more than other experiences. They can even consume us.
But we all know that the luster of the new relationship fades with
time. What was once exciting becomes routine. The glow of newness
yields to the dullness of sameness. Yes? Maybe.
Relationships that “go wrong” probably have the seeds of
destruction built in, and we don’t even know it. One of the seeds
is the failure to recognize that routine is normal. Most people
think the fun of the initial stages of relationships should last
forever. This is unrealistic. This is the mark of inexperience
or worse, immaturity. So, when routine sets in, disappointment comes
with it. There is a tendency at this point to raise the stimulation
level.
Some people raise their level of stimulation by artificially
stirring up trouble. We can do this by manipulating; for example,
by not returning our partner’s telephone calls as quickly as we
used to, thus creating a sense of wonder or other feelings. We can
do this by creating conflict, like starting to see someone else.
Some people give up, thinking this relationship is doomed because
it no longer is much fun. These may be depressed or passive people,
but they are not people who are so assertive or dynamic. These people
are content to accept things as they are, even if the changes in their
relationships are perceived as negative. Perhaps these people have
low self-esteems and are grateful to have “any” relationship.
When relationships mature, there are “other” dynamics that surface.
(Routines are not necessarily a death sentence to fun. Predictability
is often preferred to too much novelty or uncertainty. This is the
healthy side of a maturing relationship.) Boredom comes to mind
because there the same things occur over and over. This can even
apply to sex. Couples have to be aware that relationships almost never
stay the same. They either grow or stagnate. To compensate,
couples have to be aware of the process and do something else.
We have all heard of “date nights” or “girls night out” or
“boys night out.” These are common ways to deal with too much routine.
What really goes wrong in relationships is the failure to deal
with emerging “deep stuff.” Deep stuff is partly the dynamics just
described. But on a deeper level, it also is about dealing with the
real person that is right in front of you, over and over, possibly
forever and ever. This encompasses wrestling with sameness because
the real person in front of you is largely the same from day to day.
This is good if the person is well put together. This is bad if
there are “structural” faults, like personality problems, addictions
or just maladaptive personal dynamics. In the confines of intimate,
longer-term relationships, these personal tendencies emerge. They
“play out” on the activities of daily life, enhancing the relating or
deadening it, or throwing it off course completely.
The death knell of relationships is sounded when couples both
have maladaptive deep stuff. This is when couples behave in ways
that drive their partners “nuts.” Then the partner retaliates by
behaving in exactly the way that drove the first person nuts in the
first place. The first person now is angry (as well as more nuts)
and s/he behaves with more vigor in just the way that caused the
second person to behave in the way that drove the first person nuts,
in this case also with increased vigor (because of mutual frustration).
I call these Negative Loops. Just about every unhappy relationships
has them. A full description of this dynamic along with fixes for
relationships can be found in my ebooks on my website.
-Dr. Griggs
http://www.psychologyproductsandservices.com/page14.html
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Relationships are hard work! Whether you’re talking about romantic relationships, sibling relationships, relationships with friends, colleagues and even acquaintances – all these forms of relationships bring with them difficulties, and relationship questions you’d like answering.
Well, I have good news for those of you looking for relationship advice online. There is an ‘easy solution’ to all your relationship woes, and that solution is YOU…
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The beauty of starting a relationship is often so interesting and enlivening that one hardly gives a thought about the possibility of a breakup or a fall apart later in the course of the relationship. Like the saying goes “everything that has a beginning has an end” and so it is with most relationships but definitely not all. However, there are reasons adjudged to be probable causes of relationship failures and in this article we will be looking at why men often leave relationships.
There are various reasons that might be given as to why most men leave relationships and at times these relationships are those ones that can be categorised as blissful to say the least. So why would men leave that type of a relationship or any other relationship for that matter.
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